The Science of Presence: How Your Energy Speaks Before You Do

Your body broadcasts emotion, energy, and intention before you ever say a word. Learn how the heart’s electromagnetic field, nervous system regulation, and somatic awareness impact your relationships, communication, and emotional well-being.

Did you know your heart emits an electromagnetic field up to three feet outside your body?

That’s not a metaphor; it’s measurable. Research from the HeartMath Institute has shown that the heart produces the strongest rhythmic electromagnetic field in the body. And this field is not only real; it shifts and responds based on your emotional state.

This means that even before you speak, your presence is already communicating.

Your energy precedes your words.

Your body is telling a story long before you open your mouth.

You Are Always Communicating, Even in Silence

So often, we think communication starts with words. But in reality, it begins in the nervous system.

When you’re calm and grounded, your body signals safety to others. When you’re anxious, guarded, or overwhelmed, your heart rate, posture, facial expressions, and even your subtle energy field broadcast those cues outward, whether you’re conscious of it or not. This is called neuroception, your body’s ability to detect safety or danger without conscious awareness (Porges, 2011). It’s how we pick up on “vibes,” even when nothing explicit is being said.

The Body as a Field of Wisdom

Your body is more than just flesh and bones. It is a living, breathing broadcast of emotion, energy, and intention. When you walk into a room, your nervous system is already engaging with others. Your presence becomes a form of communication.

When you feel regulated, aligned, and authentic, you naturally emanate calm and clarity.

When you’re dysregulated, fragmented, or disconnected from your truth, that too is felt.

In somatic therapy, we teach clients how to listen to these signals, not just in others, but in themselves. Because embodiment is the first step to congruent communication. When you know what you’re feeling and can stay with it, you can offer your presence without distortion.

Regulating Your Nervous System to Shift Your Energy Field

Want to change how others experience your presence? Start by regulating your nervous system. Here’s how:

1. Breathe Coherently

Slow, rhythmic breathing (like inhaling for 4 counts, exhaling for 6) balances the sympathetic and parasympathetic branches of the autonomic nervous system (McCraty & Zayas, 2014).

2. Ground Through the Senses

Feel your feet on the floor. Notice the sounds around you. Sensory awareness anchors you in the present moment, which translates to a more grounded presence.

3. Feel Without Judgment

Allow emotional sensations in the body to arise and move without immediately fixing or suppressing them. This builds emotional tolerance and coherence.

4. Practice Somatic Awareness

Learn the language of your body. Notice posture, breath,and micro-movements. These subtle shifts shape how you show up.

Your Presence Is Power

If you’ve been doubting your impact…

If you’ve been feeling invisible or unsure whether your voice matters…

Let this be your reminder:

You are already communicating.

Your nervous system is a tuning fork.

Your heart is a transmitter.

Even your silence is speaking.

You don’t have to “do” more to matter.

You already are.

Ready to Embody the Power of Your Presence?

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we help you reconnect with your authentic self by healing trauma, regulating your nervous system, and learning to trust your body’s wisdom. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, relationship struggles,  or emotional burnout, our somatic, neuroscience-informed approach supports deep, lasting transformation.

Contact us today to schedule a free 20-minute consultation with our team of top-rated somatic practitioners, trauma specialists, or relationship experts, and begin your journey toward embodied connection, clarity, and confidence.

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References:

HeartMath Institute. (n.d.). Science of the Heart: Exploring the Role of the Heart in Human Performance. McCraty, R., & Zayas, M. A. (2014). Cardiac coherence, self-regulation, autonomic stability, and psychosocial well-being. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 1090. 

Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W.W. Norton & Company.

Standard EMDR vs. Attachment-Focused EMDR: Which Is Right for You?

Curious about the difference between traditional EMDR and Attachment-Focused EMDR? Learn how a more relational, somatic approach can support healing from complex trauma and early attachment wounds.

Not All EMDR Is the Same

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful, evidence-based treatment for trauma. But what many people don’t know is that EMDR comes in different forms.

While standard EMDR is highly effective for single-incident traumas, those with complex trauma, developmental wounds, or relational issues often benefit more from Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR)—a more flexible, intuitive, and relational approach.

What Is Standard EMDR?

Standard EMDR follows an 8-phase protocol developed by Francine Shapiro. It’s structured, manualized, and research-driven.

Best for:

     – Single-incident trauma (e.g., accidents, assaults)
    – Phobias or panic attacks
    – Grief and loss

Key features:

     – The therapist is more neutral and directive
    – Sessions focus on identifying and reprocessing traumatic memories
    – Best for clients who are emotionally stable and securely attached

This method works beautifully for many, but not all.

What Is Attachment-Focused EMDR?

Created by Dr. Laurel Parnell, Attachment-Focused EMDR modifies the standard model to support clients with early attachment trauma, emotional neglect, dissociation, or complex PTSD.

Best for:

     – Childhood emotional abuse or neglect
    – Developmental trauma

     – Disorganized or insecure attachment
    – Complex PTSD and dissociative symptoms

Key differences:

     – The therapist is actively emotionally present
     – Uses nurturing, protective, and wise figures to build internal safety
    – Incorporates somatic resources to regulate the nervous system
    – Adapts the pacing to each client’s tolerance and readiness
    – Emphasizes relational repair as a core part of healing

In short, AF-EMDR makes space for the therapeutic relationship to become a healing agent.

Why It Matters for Complex Trauma

If you’ve experienced:

     – Childhood abandonment
    – Emotional invalidation

     – Ongoing relational wounding

... then you may have learned to survive through disconnection—from your body, your feelings, and other people.

In these cases, trauma healing requires more than a protocol. It requires connection, attunement, and co-regulation—all of which are central to Attachment-Focused EMDR.

What the Science Says

Attachment-focused EMDR is grounded in interpersonal neurobiology and polyvagal theory. Research shows:

Healing happens through relationships that are safe, attuned, and emotionally present—not just intellectual insight or mechanical techniques.

When a therapist offers right-brain-to-right-brain attunement (Schore, 2009), the client’s brain begins to rewire itself for connection, trust, and safety. That’s what makes this approach so powerful.

Which Is Right for You?

If you’re relatively stable and looking to process a single, distressing event, standard EMDR may be a perfect fit.

But if you’ve experienced years of relational or developmental trauma, or you’ve struggled with feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or overwhelmed in other therapies, Attachment-Focused EMDR may be the deeper, safer path to healing.

How We Do It at Embodied Wellness & Recovery

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in:

     – Attachment-Focused EMDR
    – Somatic trauma therapy
    – Integrative healing approaches for trauma, addiction, and intimacy issues
    – EMDR intensives for those ready to go deeper in a shorter amount of time

Whether you’re located in Los Angeles or Nashville or seeking virtual support, our team of trauma-informed clinicians will meet you with compassion, skill, and respect for your unique healing journey.

You don’t have to heal alone. We’re here to walk with you, to be your “empathetic witness.”

🪷 Learn more about our EMDR services
📅 Schedule a free 20-minute consultation with one of our top-rate EMDR providers
🌱 Explore our EMDR Intensives and Specialty Programs that Incorporate EMDR
📍 Serving Los Angeles, Nashville, and clients nationwide (via telehealth)

📞 Call us at (310) 651-8458

📱 Text us at (310) 210-7934

📩 Email us at admin@embodiedwellnessandrecovery.com

🔗 Visit us at www.embodiedwellnessandrecovery.com

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References

Parnell, L. (2013). Attachment-focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma. W. W. Norton & Company.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

Schore, A. N. (2009). Right-brain Affect Regulation: An Essential Mechanism of Development, Trauma, Dissociation, and Psychotherapy. The Neuropsychotherapist, 1(3), 1–13.

Shapiro, F. (2017). Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures (3rd ed.). The Guilford Press.

Siegel, D. J. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (2nd ed.). The Guilford Press.