When the Body Remembers: Understanding the Link Between Trauma and Chronic Pain and How Somatic Therapy Heals from Within

Discover the neuroscience behind the connection between trauma and chronic pain. Learn how somatic therapy helps regulate the nervous system, release stored tension, and restore mind-body balance. Written by trauma and somatic therapy specialists at Embodied Wellness and Recovery.

The Hidden Connection Between Trauma and Chronic Pain

Have you ever wondered why your body continues to ache even when medical tests show nothing is wrong? Why do old injuries flare during times of stress, or why does tension seem to live in your neck, jaw, or stomach? For many people, chronic pain isn’t just a physical condition; it’s the body’s way of communicating unresolved emotional wounds.

Modern neuroscience and somatic psychology suggest that chronic pain and trauma are deeply intertwined. The body remembers what the mind tries to forget. When trauma is left unresolved, it doesn’t simply vanish; it embeds itself in the nervous system, shaping posture, muscle tension, and pain perception for years to come.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in helping clients understand and heal the relationship between trauma, chronic pain, and the nervous system. Through somatic therapy, EMDR, and other body-based approaches, clients learn to listen to their bodies’ wisdom and release the stored patterns that perpetuate suffering.

How Trauma Gets Trapped in the Body

When you experience something overwhelming, such as emotional neglect, abuse, an accident, or even ongoing stress, your body activates the fight, flight, or freeze response. This survival mechanism floods the system with adrenaline and cortisol, preparing you to act or escape. But if the threat feels inescapable, the nervous system can become stuck in that state of hyperarousal or shutdown.

In other words, the trauma response doesn’t end when the event ends. The body remains in a constant state of hypervigilance or collapse. This dysregulation may manifest as:

     — Chronic muscle tension or migraines
    — Stomach pain or gastrointestinal issues
    — Lower back pain without a structural cause
    — Autoimmune flare-ups
    — Fatigue or insomnia

Research shows that trauma changes the way the brain processes pain. The amygdala (fear center) stays overactive, while the prefrontal cortex (rational brain) becomes less able to regulate emotions or sensations. The insula, which helps you perceive internal body states, can also misfire, amplifying the sensation of pain even when there’s no new injury.

The result? A body that keeps sounding the alarm long after the danger has passed.

Chronic Pain as a Nervous System Issue

Many people with chronic pain feel dismissed by traditional medical approaches. They’re told their pain is “all in their head” or simply handed medication to manage symptoms. But chronic pain isn’t imagined; it’s embodied. It’s the language of a nervous system that never got the message that it’s safe again.

From a polyvagal perspective, chronic pain reflects a dysregulated autonomic nervous system. The vagus nerve, which connects the brain to major organs, plays a crucial role in regulating stress responses. When trauma disrupts this system, the body may oscillate between sympathetic overactivation (anxiety, tension, inflammation) and dorsal vagal shutdown (numbness, exhaustion, despair).

Somatic therapy aims to restore flexibility to this system, helping the body return to a state of regulation where healing can occur.

What Is Somatic Therapy?

Somatic therapy is a body-centered approach that helps clients reconnect with their physical sensations, emotions, and inner resources. Instead of focusing solely on cognitive processing, it emphasizes the felt experience, or how emotions manifest in the body.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, somatic therapy sessions may include:

     — Body awareness and tracking: Learning to notice tension, breath, and internal cues without judgment.
    — Grounding and orienting: Reconnecting with safety through present-moment awareness.
    — Pendulation: Gently moving between states of discomfort and calm to expand the nervous system’s capacity for regulation.
    — Resourcing: Identifying internal and external supports to stabilize the body during emotional processing.
    — Gentle movement or breathwork: Releasing stored activation and restoring flow through the musculature and fascia.

Over time, this work helps the body discharge old survival energy, completing what the trauma response was unable to finish. Clients often notice not only emotional relief but also reduced physical pain, improved sleep, and greater resilience.

The Neuroscience of Somatic Healing

Neuroscience confirms what many somatic therapists have long observed: the body and brain heal together. When clients tune into physical sensations with curiosity and compassion, the insula and anterior cingulate cortex, regions involved in emotional regulation and interoception, become more active.

This mindful awareness fosters neuroplasticity, enabling the formation of new neural pathways. The prefrontal cortex can once again modulate the amygdala, calming hyperarousal and reducing pain perception. Over time, the nervous system learns that it is safe to relax.

Somatic therapy doesn’t simply manage pain; it helps the body relearn safety, releasing the chronic muscle contractions and inflammatory responses that maintain suffering.

Why Trauma-Informed Care Matters

For individuals with trauma histories, traditional physical treatments like massage or chiropractic care can sometimes feel invasive or even re-traumatizing if the body isn’t ready. Somatic therapy offers a gentle, non-invasive alternative that honors the client’s pace.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, our trauma-informed approach ensures that every session centers on consent, empowerment, and safety. Clients are guided to develop internal resources before exploring distressing sensations or memories. This helps prevent overwhelm while supporting integration at both the emotional and physiological levels.

A Holistic Approach to Chronic Pain

Healing chronic pain isn’t just about addressing the physical body; it’s about repairing the relationship between body, mind, and emotion. That’s why we integrate EMDR, mindfulness, and relational therapy into somatic work.

This integrative model supports:

     — Nervous system repair through Somatic Experiencing and EMDR resourcing
    — Emotional release through safe exploration of stored sensations
    — Relationship repair by addressing attachment wounds that perpetuate tension and fear
    — Sexual and emotional intimacy restoration, when pain or trauma has disrupted connection

When trauma healing and body awareness come together, clients rediscover a sense of ease, vitality, and wholeness.

Asking the Right Questions

If you’re struggling with chronic pain, it can help to pause and ask yourself:

      — When did my pain first begin? Was it around a time of loss, conflict, or emotional stress?
      — Do I notice my symptoms worsen when I feel anxious or triggered?
      — Have I spent more time treating the symptoms of my pain than exploring its emotional roots?

Sometimes, the body holds answers that words cannot reach.

Hope Through Somatic Awareness

Chronic pain can make life feel small, restricting movement, joy, and connection. But within your body lies the map to healing. Through somatic therapy, you can learn to listen to what your body is communicating rather than trying to silence it.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we guide clients through a process of reconnection and regulation, helping them feel safe in their bodies again. As the nervous system stabilizes, both pain and emotional distress tend to soften. The goal isn’t just the absence of pain; it’s the presence of vitality, agency, and inner peace.

Pain as a Messenger

Chronic pain is more than a medical condition; it’s often a messenger of unhealed experience. Somatic therapy offers a compassionate and scientifically grounded path toward understanding those messages and transforming them into wisdom.

Your body isn’t betraying you; it’s asking to be heard. And with the right guidance, it can finally exhale.

Contact us to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of somatic practitioners, trauma specialists, and relationship experts. Start your journey toward embodied connection and freedom from pain today.

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References

Levine, P. A. (2010). In an unspoken voice: How the body releases trauma and restores goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books.

How to Calm Your Nervous System: Somatic Tools to Ease Stress, Anxiety & Trauma

Learn evidence-informed somatic tools to calm a dysregulated nervous system. Embodied Wellness & Recovery guides you through breath, movement, grounding, and neuroscience.

A Nervous System Under Strain

Do you ever feel like your body is running on overdrive, heart pounding, muscles tight, mind racing, even when nothing obvious is happening? Or perhaps triggers from past trauma leave you stuck in hypervigilance or shutdown? Many people struggle with a dysregulated nervous system, especially when unresolved trauma still courses through their physiology.

That chronic internal tension often shows up in stress, anxiety, disrupted relationships, intimacy challenges,  and emotional overwhelm. But your nervous system is not a rigid machine; it’s plastic, responsive, and capable of repair. In this article, we’ll explore somatic tools (body-based practices) grounded in neuroscience and trauma therapy, offering concrete ways to settle your system and recover your sense of safety and connection.

At Embodied Wellness & Recovery, we specialize in nervous system repair, trauma resolution, relational healing, and embodied sexuality and intimacy. Let us walk you through effective, grounded practices you can begin using today.

Why Somatic Tools? The Science Behind the Approach

Trauma, the Body, and Neural Patterns

When trauma (big T or small t) becomes lodged in the body, it often gets expressed—not in words, but in physiology. The brain and body are deeply intertwined: bodily states influence emotional and cognitive patterns, and vice versa (the “brain-body connection”)

Somatic therapy begins from the premise that the body holds experience. In contrast to therapies that engage primarily the mind (e.g., cognitive therapies), somatic work tunes into emergent sensations, tension, subtle tremors, and interoceptive awareness (the sense of what’s going on inside the body). 

One influential modality, Somatic Experiencing® (SE®), works by gradually “renegotiating” implicit trauma responses in the nervous system without forcing full re-experiencing. Rather than pushing you into overwhelm, SE helps generate corrective interoceptive experiences that challenge the patterns of helplessness or hyperarousal encoded in your system 

Somatic approaches also harness neuroplasticity, your brain’s ability to rewire itself, so that new, healthier patterns of regulation can take root over time.

Recognizing Dysregulation: What Your Body Is Trying to Say

Before diving into tools, it helps to tune your awareness to signs that your nervous system is out of balance. Ask yourself:

     — Do you feel chronically on edge, keyed up, or restless?
    — Do you experience waves of anxiety, panic, or a sense of being unsafe in your own skin?
    — Do you sometimes “freeze,” shut down, detach, or feel numb?
     — Do interpersonal or sexual intimacy situations trigger tension, dissociation, over-reactivity, or shutdown?

     — Do you hold persistent muscle tension, headaches, digestive issues, or difficulty sleeping?

These are not mere inconveniences; they're signals from your nervous system. Wounds from unresolved trauma often leave fault lines in your physiology that need gentle repair, not forceful suppression.

Somatic Tools to Calm & Repair (Beginner to Intermediate)

Below are evidence-informed somatic practices you can explore. Use them gently, experiment, and adjust to your current capacity. These are not “quick fixes” but bridges into deeper regulation and nervous system resilience.

1. Breath and the Physiological Sigh

One of the most direct ways to reset the autonomic nervous system is through intentional breathing. A physiological sigh (two quick inhales followed by a longer exhale) is built into mammals and can quiet hyperarousal.

Other effective breath tools include:

     — Box breathing (inhale-hold-exhale-hold, e.g. 4-4-4-4) 

     — 4-7-8 breathing (inhale 4 sec, hold 7, exhale 8)

     — Diaphragmatic (belly) breathing, placing one hand on the abdomen, the other on the chest, and emphasizing slow, full belly expansion 

Over time, these patterns can engage the parasympathetic system (the rest-and-digest branch), reducing fight-or-flight reactivity.

2. Grounding & Sensory Anchors

When your system is in reactivity, orienting through sensory input helps restore stability.

     — 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise: Name 5 things you see, 4 you touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste (or internal).

     — Cold water /splash face / cold compress (activates the mammalian dive reflex) 

     — Touch, gentle self-holding, or the “butterfly hug” (cross arms and lightly tap alternately)

     — Scan your body: shift attention slowly through body regions, noticing tension, warmth, tingling, and release (body scan)

These sensory anchors help the nervous system remember: safety is possible.

3. Movement, Tremor & Shaking

One often underestimated tool is movement, or biological tremoring, which allows the body to shake, shimmy, or release stored charge.

     — Gentle stretching or somatic yoga with attention to inner sensation (not forcing) 

     — Shaking or free form movement: wiggle hands, shake legs, dance with soft intention to let energy discharge

     — Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR): sequentially tense and release muscle groups, noticing contrast between contraction and relaxation 

     — Mindful walking: slow, attentive steps, paying attention to sensations in feet, legs, posture, horizon, air on skin 

The goal: help the nervous system shift from hyperactivation to regulated engagement.

4. Pendulation & Titration (Somatic Principles)

Somatic therapies often use pendulation, alternating gentle movement between states of activation and ease, and titration, which is gradual exposure to sensation to avoid overwhelm. These strategies allow you to approach trauma or discomfort at the edge, with incremental steps, rather than collapsing or flooding. 

In practice, you might gently allow a faint sensation of anxiety or tension, then shift attention to a sense of solidity, support, or calm, and oscillate between them until the system becomes more flexible.

5. Co-regulation & Safe Relational Contact

Your nervous system is social by design. Connection with someone calm and attuned can help co-regulate your state.

     — Share presence: Sit quietly with someone whose presence feels steady. Let your breath softly sync.
    — Gentle touch or holding (if safe and appropriate)
    — Voice, humming, or soft vocalization (hum, sing, toning); vibrations feed into the vagal network and support parasympathetic activation

These relational practices can feel supportive, especially when solo tools feel too thin.

A Sample Micro Practice You Can Try

1. Sit comfortably (or lie down) with your hands resting on your body.

2. Begin diaphragmatic breathing: inhale for 4, exhale for 6, eyes softly closed.

3. After 4–6 breaths, shift into 5-4-3-2-1 grounding, naming your sensory environment.

4. If you feel activation (tingle, heat, tension), allow micro-movement or soft shaking in the limbs for 30 seconds.

5. Return to breath, noticing your system’s response.

6. Optionally, hum or softly vocalize as you exhale.

Even a 3-minute practice like this can interrupt cycles of reactivity and guide you back toward safety.

From Self-Practice to Deep Repair (When You’re Ready)

These tools are foundational; they offer entry points to somatic awareness and regulation. But for more profound nervous system healing, partnership with a skilled trauma-informed clinician accelerates and stabilizes the process.

At Embodied Wellness & Recovery, we weave together:

     — Somatic therapy
    — EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
    — Attachment-based and relational therapy
     — Specific work around sexuality, intimacy, and relational boundaries

We understand how dysregulation interacts with relationship patterns and the nervous system,  and we hold space for safely exploring trauma without retraumatization.

With guidance, you can move from survival mode toward flexible regulation, a state in which intimacy, pleasure, vulnerability, and trust can reemerge.

Hope, Consistency, and the Way Forward

A dysregulated nervous system does not have to define your life. Though trauma may have shaped your default tendencies, your physiology is adaptive and can be retrained. Over weeks and months of consistent, safe somatic practice, you may notice:

     — Less reactivity (emotional outbursts, sudden tension)
     — Greater ability to self-soothe
    — More capacity for closeness, trust, and relational safety
    — More restful sleep, ease in your body, smoother regulation across daily life

This is not about perfection. It’s about gradual rewiring, incremental restoration, and reclaiming more of your embodied self.

Closing Words

If you feel called to more than self-practice, and you want a therapeutic partnership attuned to your history, body, relationships, and goals, Embodied Wellness & Recovery is here to support you. Our clinicians are steeped in trauma, somatic, and relational modalities. We support nervous system repair, relational healing, sexual and intimacy exploration, and resilient flourishing.

Start where you are. Breathe gently. Move subtly. Listen inward. And know: your system can learn new rhythms, new safety signals, new contours of trust.

Reach out to schedule a free 20-minute consultation with our team of therapists, trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, or relationship experts, and begin the process of reconnecting with your life force energy today.

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References

Brom, D., Stokar, Y., Lawi, C., Nuriel-Porat, V., Lerner, K., & Krammer, N. (2017). Interoceptive awareness in Somatic Experiencing. Frontiers in Psychology, 8, 155. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2017.00155 (discussed in broader review) PMC

Levine, P. A. (1997). Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books.
(Referenced indirectly through Somatic Experiencing theory) PMC+1

Payne, P., Levine, P. A., & Crane‐Gillies, J. (2015). Trauma and the body: A sensorimotor approach to psychotherapy. W. W. Norton & Company. (underpins somatic, titration, corrective interoceptive experience concepts) PMC

Myths and Misconceptions About Trauma Therapy: What Science Really Tells Us About Healing

Explore the most common myths and misconceptions about trauma therapy. Learn how neuroscience reveals the truth about trauma treatment and discover supportive, evidence-based approaches for nervous system repair and relational healing.

Why Do So Many People Avoid Trauma Therapy?

If you are struggling with symptoms of unresolved trauma, chronic anxiety, difficulty trusting others, or feeling “stuck” in survival mode, you may have wondered whether trauma therapy could help. Yet, many people never take the first step because of negative misconceptions about what trauma therapy is and how it works.

Have you ever asked yourself:

     — Will talking about my past just make me feel worse?
     — Is trauma therapy only for people with the most extreme experiences?
    — Does therapy mean reliving everything I went through?

These fears are common, but they are often based on myths rather than science. By examining the research and neuroscience that actually support them, we can begin to unravel the false beliefs that prevent many from accessing the support they deserve.

Myth 1: Trauma Therapy Means Reliving Every Painful Memory

One of the biggest misconceptions is that trauma therapy forces people to go into great detail about the events they endured. Understandably, revisiting those memories can feel terrifying.

The truth: Modern trauma therapy is not about retraumatization. Instead, it focuses on helping the nervous system regulate in the present moment so that the body no longer reacts as though the trauma is happening now.

Neuroscience reveals that traumatic memories are stored differently from ordinary memories. When trauma is unresolved, the amygdala, the brain’s fear center, remains hyperactive. Trauma therapy uses techniques like EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, or parts work to safely process sensations and emotions without overwhelming the system.

Myth 2: Trauma Therapy Is Only for “Severe” Trauma

Another widespread belief is that trauma therapy is only for people who have survived war, disasters, or extreme abuse. While those experiences are certainly traumatic, trauma can also stem from neglect, chronic stress, attachment wounds, or repeated invalidation.

The truth: Trauma is not defined by the event alone, but by how the nervous system responds and whether it can return to a state of safety. Even experiences others might dismiss as “minor” can leave lasting imprints on the body and mind.

Avoiding therapy because your trauma “does not seem bad enough” often leaves unresolved patterns unaddressed, patterns that continue to affect relationships, self-worth, and health.

Myth 3: Talking to Friends or Family Is the Same as Therapy

Supportive loved ones can provide comfort, but personal conversations are not the same as evidence-based trauma treatment. Friends may unintentionally minimize your experience or feel overwhelmed by emotions they are not trained to hold.

The truth: Trauma therapy works with both the psychological and physiological responses to trauma. Therapists trained in neuroscience-based methods understand how to guide the body out of survival states and into a state of regulation. This kind of work is not about venting; it is about rewiring the nervous system for safety, presence, and connection.

Myth 4: Trauma Therapy Will Take Years Before Anything Changes

Another reason people hesitate to begin therapy is the fear that healing will take decades of work before any relief is felt.

The truth: While trauma recovery is not linear and requires commitment, many people begin noticing changes after a handful of sessions. This is because the brain and nervous system are plastic; they can adapt and form new pathways when given the right conditions.

Practices that promote co-regulation, mindfulness, or body awareness often yield immediate relief from symptoms such as hyperarousal, panic, or dissociation. Small shifts add up over time, and therapy can be tailored to fit each person’s goals.

Myth 5: Trauma Therapy Is Just About Talking

Traditional talk therapy has value, but unresolved trauma often lives in the body more than in words. Many people who have tried standard therapy without success assume all treatment will be the same.

The truth: Approaches such as EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and trauma-informed CBT integrate the body, brain, and emotions. For example, somatic work helps clients become aware of physical sensations and safely discharge stress responses. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to reprocess traumatic memories in a way that reduces their intensity. These methods are grounded in neuroscience and proven effective for trauma treatment.

The Cost of Believing the Myths

Avoiding trauma therapy because of misconceptions often prolongs suffering. Symptoms such as hypervigilance, emotional numbing, intrusive thoughts, or difficulty forming secure relationships are not simply “personality traits.” They are signs of a nervous system still stuck in a state of survival mode.

When left unaddressed, unresolved trauma can fuel anxiety, depression, substance use, and intimacy struggles. The myths surrounding trauma therapy can keep individuals from accessing life-changing support.

What Neuroscience Tells Us

Research highlights that healing trauma is not about forgetting the past but about helping the brain and body return to a state of regulation.

     — Amygdala regulation: Therapy helps quiet overactivation of the brain’s fear center.
     — Hippocampus integration: Safe processing strengthens the hippocampus, which places memories into a coherent narrative.
    — Prefrontal cortex balance: Mindfulness and somatic awareness improve the prefrontal cortex’s ability to calm emotional reactivity.

In short, trauma therapy helps shift the nervous system out of survival mode so that daily life can be lived with more presence, trust, and vitality.

Moving Beyond Misconceptions

The myths about trauma therapy often stem from outdated ideas or misunderstandings. By grounding our understanding in neuroscience and compassionate practice, it becomes clear that trauma therapy is not about reliving pain but about restoring the nervous system’s capacity for safety and connection.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in trauma-informed care that integrates EMDR, somatic therapy, and relational work. Our approach recognizes that trauma affects not only the mind but also the body, relationships, sexuality, and intimacy. Through personalized treatment, we support clients in repairing their nervous systems and building authentic connections.

Fostering Deeper Connection

Myths and misconceptions about trauma therapy prevent countless individuals from pursuing the support that could ease their suffering. Trauma therapy does not mean reliving every painful detail, nor is it reserved only for the most extreme experiences. It is about utilizing neuroscience-informed techniques to repair the nervous system, address unresolved patterns, and cultivate deeper connections within relationships and oneself.

The first step in overcoming trauma is not ignoring it; it is allowing science, compassion, and skilled support to show a different way forward.

Reach out to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of relationship experts, trauma specialists, or somatic practitioners, and start the process of cultivating deeper connection with yourself and others.

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References

1) Levine, P. A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the body releases trauma and restores goodness. North Atlantic Books.

2) Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

3) Shapiro, F. (2017). Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic principles, protocols, and procedures. Guilford Publications.

When Violence Shakes Our Core: Understanding Collective Trauma and Moral Injury in an Age of Political Extremism

Collective trauma and moral injury occur when public violence violates our sense of justice, fairness, and safety. Learn how ideological violence impacts the nervous system, relationships, and public trust, and discover neuroscience-informed ways to restore resilience and connection.

When the World No Longer Feels Safe

What happens to our minds and bodies when we witness political assassinations, mass shootings, or public acts of ideological violence? Even if we are not physically present, the constant exposure to disturbing images and stories through news and social media can leave us shaken. This phenomenon, often referred to as collective trauma, goes beyond individual suffering and affects communities, nations, and cultures.

Paired with collective trauma is the concept of moral injury, the distress we feel when witnessing acts that violate deeply held beliefs about fairness, justice, and humanity. When we see public leaders assassinated, institutions shaken, or communities torn apart by violence, the nervous system reacts not only with fear but also with profound grief, disillusionment, and confusion about what the future holds.

What Is Collective Trauma?

Collective trauma describes the psychological wounds experienced by large groups of people following catastrophic or violent events. Unlike individual trauma, collective trauma extends beyond personal experience and becomes embedded in the shared psyche of a community or society.

Events such as political assassinations, terrorist attacks, or racially motivated violence are not just personal tragedies; they reverberate across communities, sparking fear, division, and despair. People begin asking:

     — How could this happen in our country?
     — What does this say about who we are becoming?
    — Can we trust our institutions to keep us safe?

These questions reflect not just fear, but a deeper existential wound to our sense of belonging and collective identity.

Understanding Moral Injury

While collective trauma speaks to the shared wound, moral injury captures the internal conflict many individuals feel when they witness violence that contradicts their values.

Traditionally studied in combat veterans, moral injury is now being recognized as a widespread phenomenon. When ideological violence erupts, whether a politically motivated assassination or an extremist attack, observers often feel powerless, betrayed, and disoriented.

Moral injury can manifest as:

     — A loss of trust in leaders, institutions, or even neighbors.
    — A sense of disillusionment with society.
     — Anger, shame, or guilt for being unable to prevent harm.
    — Emotional numbness or withdrawal from public life.

The nervous system, designed to protect us, interprets these events as a threat not just to survival but to meaning itself. Neuroscience shows that when core beliefs are shattered, the brain’s stress circuits (including the amygdala and hippocampus) activate repeatedly, leaving us hypervigilant and exhausted.

The Neuroscience of Violence in the Media

Why does watching violent news coverage leave us feeling so distressed, even if we were not there? Research suggests that the brain does not fully distinguish between direct experience and vividly portrayed events. Repeated exposure to graphic videos or divisive rhetoric activates the sympathetic nervous system, triggering fight-or-flight responses.

This leads to:

      — Hyperarousal: difficulty sleeping, increased irritability, constant scanning for danger.
     — Emotional numbing: shutting down feelings to cope with overwhelming input.
    — Disrupted connection: withdrawing from relationships out of mistrust or despair.

Collectively, these reactions mirror what trauma survivors experience. On a societal level, this can fuel polarization, fear, and cynicism, deepening divisions rather than fostering resilience.

How Moral Injury Impacts Relationships and Intimacy

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we frequently observe how public violence infiltrates private life. Clients who consume hours of political news or social media often report feeling emotionally distant from their partners, anxious in their parenting, or disconnected in intimacy.

When the nervous system is caught in cycles of threat response, it becomes difficult to:

     — Stay emotionally regulated in relationships.
     — Engage in physical closeness without fear or tension.
    — Maintain curiosity and empathy in the face of differences.

This is the hidden cost of collective trauma: not only are we shaken by events on the world stage, but our capacity for love, connection, and joy at home is quietly eroded.

National Conversations and Historical Parallels

The assassination of public figures triggers memories of earlier moments of political violence. From the 1960s assassinations of Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert F. Kennedy to more recent extremist attacks, these events have become cultural markers of disillusionment.

Today’s conversations often circle around questions such as:

     — Are we witnessing a new era of political extremism?
    — What does this mean for our democracy, our institutions, and our children’s future?
      — How can communities hold onto hope when violence dominates the headlines?

These national dialogues, while painful, are crucial. They represent a collective attempt to make meaning from tragedy and to resist the numbness that moral injury often creates.

Pathways to Healing Collective Trauma and Moral Injury

The question becomes: What can we do when violence shakes our collective trust? While we cannot prevent every act of extremism, we can strengthen our resilience and reclaim agency in how we respond.

1. Limit Media Exposure

Neuroscience shows that repeated viewing of violent content deepens traumatic imprinting. Choose intentional, limited news check-ins rather than constant scrolling.

2. Engage in Somatic Grounding

Practices like deep breathing, yoga, or mindfulness bring the nervous system back into balance. Somatic resourcing restores a sense of safety in the body, countering hyperarousal.

3. Create Safe Conversations

Talking with trusted people about feelings of betrayal, grief, or fear helps prevent isolation. Collective healing begins in dialogue.

4. Rebuild Trust in Small Circles

While national institutions may feel shaken, focus on strengthening bonds in your family, friendships, and community. Safety is rebuilt relationally.

5. Seek Professional Support

Therapies like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Somatic Experiencing, and trauma-informed couples therapy can help resolve the nervous system’s stuck responses and repair intimacy ruptures.

How Embodied Wellness and Recovery Can Help

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in supporting individuals, couples, and families navigating trauma in all its forms, personal, relational, and collective. Our work integrates neuroscience, somatic therapy, and relational healing to help clients:

     — Repair nervous system dysregulation caused by chronic exposure to violence and fear.
    — Address moral injury by creating new pathways of meaning and connection.
    — Restore intimacy and trust within relationships strained by collective trauma.
    — Build resilience practices that empower individuals to engage with the world without becoming overwhelmed.

When ideological violence shakes your sense of safety, there are ways to re-anchor in your body, your values, and your relationships. Collective trauma may be inevitable in a world of political volatility, but how we metabolize it, and whether we grow more fragmented or more connected, remains within our power.

Reclaiming Meaning After Violence

Collective trauma and moral injury remind us that public violence is not just a political or social issue; it is a profoundly human wound. By understanding how these events impact our nervous systems, relationships, and trust in institutions, we can begin to address them with compassion and intention.

Healing is not about ignoring the pain but about transforming it into renewed purpose, deeper connection, and embodied resilience. In this process, we reclaim not only our personal well-being but also our role in shaping the kind of society we long to belong to.

Contact us today to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of somatic practitioners, trauma specialists, and relationship experts, and start your journey toward embodied connection and a felt sense of safety. 

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Stress: The Spice of Life? Understanding Eustress, Distress, and Neustress Through a Neuroscience Lens

Stress is often viewed as harmful, but not all stress is bad. Learn how eustress, distress, and neustress shape your brain, body, and relationships and discover practical tools for balance from experts in trauma, nervous system repair, and holistic therapy.

Rethinking Stress

When you hear the word stress, what comes to mind? Perhaps racing thoughts, tense shoulders,  or sleepless nights. It might surprise you to learn that the word itself originates from the Latin term stringere, meaning “to draw tight” or “distress.” Yet in modern neuroscience and psychology, stress is far more complex than a single negative state.

Without stress, life would not just be boring; it would be unlivable. Stress is the engine of human physiology, shaping how we wake up, learn, connect, and respond to danger. It drives motivation, fuels growth, and even protects us. At the same time, unmanaged or overwhelming stress can wreak havoc on our nervous system, relationships, and long-term health.

So how do we make sense of this paradox? The key lies in recognizing the three primary types of stress: eustress, distress, and neustress.

Why Does Stress Feel So Overwhelming?

If you’ve ever wondered:

     — Why does some pressure motivate me, while other stress leaves me paralyzed?

     — Why do I feel exhausted by constant small stressors that “shouldn’t matter”?
     — How does stress affect not just my body, but my emotions and relationships?

You are asking the right questions. The nervous system interprets stress through multiple pathways: cognitive, hormonal, and somatic. Whether stress becomes supportive or harmful depends on intensity, duration, and your ability to regulate your body’s response.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we help individuals explore these nuances through trauma-informed therapy, somatic work, and relational healing. Understanding these stress types is the first step toward regaining balance.

The Three Types of Stress

1. Eustress: The Helpful Stress That Fuels Growth

Eustress is often called “positive stress.” It’s the energy you feel before a big presentation, the nervous excitement before a first date, or the adrenaline that pushes you to complete a challenging project.

From a neuroscience perspective, eustress activates the sympathetic nervous system in a manageable way. Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline increase alertness and sharpen focus, but they don’t overwhelm your system. Instead, they prime your brain for neuroplasticity, the process of learning and growth.

     — Examples of Eustress: Preparing for a job interview, training for a marathon, or learning a new skill.
    — Benefits: Enhances motivation, builds resilience, and fosters adaptability.

When harnessed well, eustress strengthens both the body and mind. The key is that it feels challenging but manageable, a balance between effort and reward.

2. Distress: When Stress Turns Toxic

Distress is the type of stress most of us are familiar with, the overwhelming, exhausting kind that erodes our well-being.

Distress occurs when the demands placed on you exceed your perceived resources to cope. Neuroscience shows that chronic distress keeps the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis in overdrive, flooding the body with stress hormones. Over time, this leads to nervous system dysregulation, emotional reactivity, inflammation, and even long-term conditions such as anxiety, depression, and cardiovascular disease.

     — Examples of Distress: Financial strain, relationship conflict, workplace burnout, or unresolved trauma.
    — Consequences: Impaired memory and concentration, weakened immune function, and increased vulnerability to mental health disorders.

Distress doesn’t just affect the body; it impacts relationships, intimacy, and our ability to feel safe with others. At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we see how unresolved distress often shows up as trauma symptoms, intimacy struggles, and compulsive behaviors.

3. Neustress: The Neutral Stress We Don’t Notice

The third category, neustress, often flies under the radar. Neustress refers to stressors that have a neutral effect, neither clearly positive nor overtly harmful.

For example, hearing about an earthquake on the news may register as stress in your nervous system even if it doesn’t directly affect you. Engaging in activities like reading emails, scrolling social media, or encountering constant minor interruptions can all create low-level neustress.

While neustress might seem harmless, it adds up. Constant low-intensity stressors keep the nervous system on alert, leading to allostatic load, the wear and tear on the body from chronic stress exposure.

     — Examples of Neustress: Ambient noise, information overload, or updates about distant events.
    — Impact: Cumulative strain, reduced focus, subtle fatigue, and emotional irritability.

This explains why many people feel drained without a clear cause. Our modern environment bombards us with constant micro-stressors that never give the nervous system a chance to reset.

How Stress Shapes the Brain and Body

Neuroscientific research highlights that stress isn’t simply “in your head.” It reshapes the nervous system at every level:

     — Amygdala: Heightened reactivity during distress makes the brain more sensitive to perceived threats.
    — Prefrontal Cortex: Chronic stress weakens executive functioning, making it harder to plan, regulate emotions, and make thoughtful choices.
    — Hippocampus: Prolonged stress impairs memory and learning, reducing resilience to future stressors.
    — Autonomic Nervous System: Unresolved stress locks the body in fight-flight or freeze, limiting access to safety, rest, and intimacy.

Understanding these mechanisms can help you move from feeling powerless to recognizing stress as something you can regulate and reshape.

Practical Tools for Managing Stress

1. Somatic Practices for Regulation
Techniques like breathwork, grounding, yoga, or Somatic Experiencing help discharge stress energy from the body, restoring balance to the nervous system.

2. Mindful Awareness
Slowing down to notice whether stress is eustress, distress, or neustress gives you a choice. Ask: Is this pressure motivating me, overwhelming me, or subtly draining me?

3. Healthy Relationships and Boundaries
Connection with supportive people regulates the nervous system. Conversely, toxic or boundaryless relationships amplify distress.

4. Therapeutic Support
Working with trauma-informed therapists can help you unpack unresolved distress, build tools for emotional regulation, and transform your relationship to stress.

Stress, Relationships, and Intimacy

Stress doesn’t just live in the body; it impacts how we love and connect. Distress often leads to withdrawal, irritability, or conflict. Neustress can create disconnection through constant distraction. But eustress, like working together toward shared goals, can actually deepen intimacy.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in helping clients repair nervous system dysregulation that undermines connection. Through EMDR, somatic therapy, and relational counseling, couples and individuals learn to turn stress from a wedge into an opportunity for growth.

Hope for a Balanced Relationship with Stress

If you feel consumed by stress, ask yourself: Am I facing distress, eustress, or neustress? By naming the type of stress, you reclaim power. With the proper support, stress can become less of a threat and more of a signal, a guide toward what needs attention, release, or resilience.

Stress truly is the spice of life. But like any spice, the key lies in balance, integration, and mindful use.

Transforming Your Relationship to Stress

Stress will always be a part of life. But how it shapes your health, relationships, and sense of safety depends on how you relate to it. At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we guide clients through neuroscience-informed therapy to transform their stress responses, helping them live not only with less distress, but with more vitality, connection, and ease.

Reach out to schedule a free 20-minute consultation with our team of trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, and relationship experts, and learn to manage your stress today.

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References

American Psychological Association. (2023). Stress effects on the body. 

McEwen, B. S. (2007). Physiology and neurobiology of stress and adaptation: Central role of the brain. Physiological Reviews, 87(3), 873–904.

Sapolsky, R. M. (2004). Why zebras don’t get ulcers: The acclaimed guide to stress, stress-related diseases, and coping. Holt Paperbacks.