How NeuroAffective Touch Heals Dissociation: A Neuroscience Approach to Somatic Fragmentation

Discover how NeuroAffective Touch supports healing from dissociation, somatic fragmentation, and unresolved trauma by integrating body-based safety, nervous system repair, and relational regulation.

How NeuroAffective Touch Heals Dissociation: A Neuroscience Approach to Somatic Fragmentation

Dissociation can feel confusing, frightening, and profoundly isolating. Many people describe it as “being here but not here,” “watching life from the outside,” or “feeling disconnected from my body.” For others, it shows up as numbness, zoning out, emotional deadness, or losing time. These experiences are not a sign of weakness. They are the nervous system’s attempt to survive overwhelming experiences that the body could not process at the time.

But dissociation does not only affect thoughts. It affects the body. It fragments physical sensations, emotional presence, and a core sense of self. Trauma disrupts the relationship between mind, body, and identity, leaving people feeling scattered, unsafe, or disconnected inside their own skin.

This is where NeuroAffective Touch becomes uniquely powerful. Unlike talk therapy alone, which often cannot reach the implicit memory systems where trauma is stored, NeuroAffective Touch works directly with the nervous system to restore safety, integration, and embodied presence.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, NeuroAffective Touch is integrated into our trauma-informed approach to help clients restore connection, wholeness, and self-regulation from the inside out.

What Is NeuroAffective Touch?

NeuroAffective Touch is a somatic, relational, hands-on therapeutic modality developed by Dr. Aline LaPierre. It is grounded in developmental neuroscience, attachment theory, and polyvagal principles. The method uses skilled, respectful, attuned touch to regulate the nervous system and repair early attachment injuries.

Unlike massage or bodywork, NeuroAffective Touch focuses on emotional and relational development. The touch is slow, intentional, and supportive. It offers the body an experience of co-regulation and safety that may have been missing during crucial early periods of life.

NeuroAffective Touch communicates safety where words alone cannot.

Why Trauma Creates Dissociation and Fragmentation

Trauma overwhelms the brain’s capacity to regulate emotional and physiological states. When the nervous system cannot escape, fight, or seek safety, it may default to dissociation.

Dissociation serves as a biological protective mechanism by:

     — Numbing overwhelming sensations
    — Disconnecting from emotional pain
    — Distancing from the environment
    — Reducing awareness to tolerate threat

Although dissociation can protect a person in the moment, chronic dissociation impairs daily functioning. It disrupts:

     — Emotional regulation
    — Stable sense of self
    — Physical presence
    — Connection with others
    — Ability to feel safe
    — Capacity for intimacy

Many people with early trauma describe feeling “cut off” from their bodies or “floating through life.”

NeuroAffective Touch offers a pathway back.

The Neuroscience Behind Somatic Fragmentation

Somatic fragmentation occurs when the nervous system organizes itself around survival rather than connection. Trauma disrupts integration in several key areas:

1. The Polyvagal System

Trauma often forces the body into dorsal vagal shutdown, leading to numbness, collapse, and disconnection.

2. The Amygdala and Limbic System

Overactivation keeps the body on alert, leading to hypervigilance and emotional overwhelm.

3. The Prefrontal Cortex

Trauma reduces access to executive functioning, making grounding and presence difficult.

4. Implicit Memory Networks

Trauma is stored nonverbally in the body, not in words. These memories must be processed through sensation, movement, and relational attunement.

5. Attachment Pathways

Early relational trauma creates disrupted internal maps that shape emotional regulation, touch tolerance, and relational safety.

NeuroAffective Touch specifically targets these systems through the language of the body.

How NeuroAffective Touch Helps Heal Dissociation

NeuroAffective Touch supports dissociation recovery by working directly with the nervous system and the body’s relational wiring.

1. It Restores Safety Through Co-Regulation

Trauma often occurs without the presence of a supportive adult. Attuned touch gives the body an experience it may never have received: a safe, nurturing, regulated presence.

2. It Reconnects the Body and Mind

Touch helps reintegrate sensory, emotional, and physical awareness. Clients begin noticing sensations they previously had no access to.

3. It Heals Developmental Attachment Injuries

Gentle touch communicates attunement, presence, and care, which support the repair of early relational wounds.

4. It Supports Emotional Regulation

Slow, intentional touch stimulates the ventral vagal system, promoting calmness and resilience.

5. It Rewrites Implicit Memory

Trauma stored in the body is accessed and reorganized through therapeutic touch and relational presence.

6. It Reduces Shame and Self-Blame

The experience of being cared for at a nervous system level counters deep shame narratives that trauma often leaves behind.

7. It Supports Integration and Wholeness

Clients often describe feeling “more in their body,” “more real,” or “able to feel again.”

What a Session Looks Like

NeuroAffective Touch sessions are gentle, slow, and deeply collaborative. Clients remain fully clothed. Touch may be applied to areas associated with developmental attachment, such as the upper back, arms, hands, pelvis, or feet.

Sessions may include:

     — Grounding and sensory tracking
    — Guided breath awareness
    — Hands-on support to specific regions of the body
    — Relational attunement and co-regulation
    — Verbal reflection to integrate physical experiences

The goal is always safety, choice, and honoring the client’s pace.

Who Can Benefit from NeuroAffective Touch?

Individuals experiencing:

     — Dissociation
     — Somatic numbness
    — Emotional shutdown
    — Chronic freeze
     — Complex PTSD
    — Developmental trauma
    — Attachment wounds
    — Difficulty with embodied presence
    — Fragmentation or inner disconnection
    — Difficulty tolerating emotional closeness

Often find NeuroAffective Touch deeply transformative.

How NeuroAffective Touch Fits into Trauma Treatment at Embodied Wellness and Recovery

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, NeuroAffective Touch is integrated with:

     — EMDR therapy
    — Attachment-focused EMDR
    — Somatic Experiencing
    — IFS and parts work
    — Polyvagal-informed therapy
    — Mindfulness and breath-based regulation
    — Trauma-informed relational psychotherapy

This integrative approach helps clients rebuild safety, connection, and emotional resilience at both a cognitive and cellular level.

Trauma may fracture the body’s sense of wholeness, but the nervous system is capable of profound repair when given the right conditions.

A Pathway Back to Yourself

Dissociation and somatic fragmentation are not signs of weakness. They are evidence of the body’s incredible ability to survive. NeuroAffective Touch offers a compassionate, neuroscience-informed pathway to reconnect with your body, restore emotional presence, and rebuild inner coherence.

With attuned support, the body can learn to feel safe again. The mind can return home to the body. And the fragmented parts can integrate into a grounded, connected whole.

Reach out to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of therapists, trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, or relationship experts, and start working towards integrative, embodied healing today. 

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References 

1) LaPierre, A. (2021). NeuroAffective Touch: Healing through the body in psychotherapy. W. W. Norton.
2) Porges, S. W. (2017). The pocket guide to the polyvagal theory: The transformative power of feeling safe. W. W. Norton.
3) Siegel, D. J. (2020). The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we become (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.

Attracting Healthy Love by Rewiring Your Autonomic Nervous System: A Neuroscience Approach to Secure Relationships

Learn how your autonomic nervous system influences who you are attracted to, why you repeat unhealthy relationship patterns, and how somatic and trauma-informed practices can help you attract and sustain healthy love. Discover neuroscience-based tools used at Embodied Wellness and Recovery to regulate your nervous system, transform attachment patterns, and create emotionally secure relationships.

Attracting Healthy Love by Rewiring Your Autonomic Nervous System

Why does love feel so different for each person?
Why do some people find themselves repeatedly drawn to emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or unsafe partners?
Why does part of you crave deep connection, while another part shuts down, gets anxious, or feels overwhelmed when love becomes real?

These patterns are not reflections of weakness or poor judgment. They reflect the autonomic nervous system. The body chooses partners long before the mind does. Attraction is often shaped by familiarity, not necessarily by what is healthy.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we help clients understand the neuroscience behind their attachment patterns and learn how to regulate the nervous system in ways that support secure, stable, nourishing love. When your nervous system feels safe, you stop being drawn to chaos, intensity, or inconsistency and begin to feel attracted to partnership that is emotionally steady and supportive.

Why We Attract the Same Unhealthy Patterns

If you find yourself asking questions like:

     — Why do I keep choosing partners who emotionally abandon me?
    — Why am I only attracted to people who are unpredictable or difficult to read?
    — Why do secure partners feel boring or unfamiliar?
    — Why do I lose interest when someone treats me with kindness?
     — Why does my anxiety spike in healthy relationships?

The answer often lies in autonomic conditioning. The nervous system seeks out what it has learned to interpret as familiar, even if early experiences of emotional inconsistency, rejection, chaos, or neglect shaped that familiarity.

Trauma research shows that the nervous system stores implicit memories of what love felt like in childhood. If love was inconsistent, confusing, or painful, the body may unconsciously recreate that pattern in adulthood.

This is not self-sabotage. It is survival learning.

The Autonomic Nervous System: Your Internal Compass in Love

The autonomic nervous system has three main pathways that shape how you respond to intimacy:

1. Ventral Vagal State (Safety and Connection)

In this state, your body feels calm, stable, open, and capable of emotional presence. You can tolerate intimacy, vulnerability, and healthy dependence. This is the foundation of secure attachment.

2. Sympathetic State (Fight or Flight)

When early attachment wounds are activated, the body may shift into anxiety, fear, or hypervigilance. You may feel panicked by closeness, desperate to keep someone from leaving, or easily triggered by emotional ambiguity.

3. Dorsal Vagal State (Freeze or Shutdown)

If the connection feels overwhelming or unsafe, the body may collapse into numbness, disconnection, or withdrawal. You may lose interest quickly, feel shut down during conflict, or detach emotionally.

When the autonomic nervous system learns unsafe patterns early in life, it may interpret healthy, stable love as unfamiliar. It may interpret intensity, emotional distance, or inconsistency as a sign of connection.

This is why rewiring the autonomic nervous system is essential for attracting healthy love.

How Trauma Shapes Attraction and Relationship Patterns

Trauma does not only affect how you think. It affects how you feel, sense, and interpret the world.

Neuroscience shows that:

     — The amygdala becomes sensitized to familiar emotional patterns
    — The vagus nerve influences attachment and connection
    — The prefrontal cortex goes offline during triggers
    — The nervous system can misread healthy love as unsafe
    — Old relational templates guide attraction automatically

You may feel drawn to partners who replicate old wounds because the nervous system confuses familiarity with safety. This can show up as:

     — Feeling more drawn to partners who are emotionally unpredictable
    — Losing interest when someone is available and attuned
    — Confusing chemistry with chaos
    — Mistaking anxiety for passion
    — Tolerating emotional inconsistency because it feels known

The nervous system learns love through repetition. To attract healthy love, the body must learn a new template for safety.

Rewiring Your Nervous System to Attract Healthy Love

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, our work integrates somatic therapy, Attachment Focused EMDR, polyvagal theory, and trauma-informed relationship work to help the nervous system rewire patterns at their root.

Below are the core components of the transformation process.

1. Increasing Autonomic Awareness

The first step toward secure love is learning how to identify your nervous system states.

Questions we explore with clients include:

      — Does your body tighten or relax around emotionally available partners?
      — Do you mistake intensity for connection?
      — What sensations tell you that you are shifting into anxiety or withdrawal?
      — What does safety feel like in your body?
      — What triggers your nervous system in relationships?

Awareness creates choice.

2. Building Somatic Safety

Healthy love requires the ability to feel safe in connection. Your body must learn how to tolerate closeness without going into fight, flight, or freeze.

Somatic practices we use include:

     — Grounding and sensory awareness
    — Diaphragmatic breathwork
    — Orienting
    — Bilateral stimulation
    — Co-regulation exercises
    — Interoceptive tracking

When the body feels safe, you naturally gravitate toward partners who feel safe too.

3. EMDR to Heal Attachment Wounds

Attachment-Focused EMDR helps process childhood memories that shaped your nervous system’s template for love. When these wounds are healed, the emotional charge that pulls you into unhealthy relationships fades.

Clients often say that unhealthy patterns suddenly feel less appealing, while steadier partners become more interesting and emotionally attractive.

4. Repatterning Attraction Through Consistency

The nervous system learns through repetition.
We help clients create new emotional experiences of:

     — Steady attention
    — Healthy boundaries
     — Emotional attunement
    — Reliability
    — Repair during conflict

Over time, your body begins to interpret these qualities as the new baseline for connection.

This is the foundation of secure love.

5. Aligning Relationships With a Regulated Nervous System

A regulated nervous system helps you:

     — Choose partners who can meet you emotionally
    — Identify red flags sooner

     — Communicate without panic or shutdown
    — Stay present during conflict
    — Trust consistency
    — Cultivate deeper intimacy
    — Create secure attachment

Healthy love is not built from the mind alone. It emerges from a nervous system that feels safe.

Why Doing This Work Matters

Suppose you have been drawn to emotionally avoidant partners, chaotic relationships, or relationships that leave you anxious, depleted, or confused. In that case, your nervous system may be holding on to old emotional imprints that need attention.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we understand that love begins in the body.
By helping clients regulate their nervous systems, heal early attachment wounds, and experience emotional safety, we create the conditions for meaningful, stable, and mutually supportive relationships.

Attraction can change.
Your patterns can transform.
And your nervous system can learn a new way to love.

Reach out to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of therapists, trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, or relationship experts, and start working towards integrative, embodied healing today. 

📞 Call us at (310) 651-8458

📱 Text us at (310) 210-7934

📩 Email us at admin@embodiedwellnessandrecovery.com

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References 

1) Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love. TarcherPerigee.

2) Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton and Company.

3) Schore, A. N. (2012). The science of the art of psychotherapy. W. W. Norton and Company.

When Attachment Shapes the Self: How Early Wounds Influence Personality and Adult Relationships

Explore how early attachment wounds affect personality development, emotional regulation, and adult relationships, and how trauma-informed therapy supports healing.

When Attachment Shapes the Self: How Early Wounds Influence Personality and Adult Relationships

Why do certain relationships feel overwhelming, confusing, or emotionally intense?
Why do some people shut down, while others cling, lash out, or spiral into fear when conflict arises?
Why does love feel safe for some and threatening for others?

These struggles often trace back to early attachment wounds, which are powerful imprints on the developing brain and nervous system. For many adults, these imprints can influence personality, identity, emotional regulation, and ultimately the way they show up in relationships.

In fact, research shows that early attachment experiences have a measurable effect on brain wiring, shaping everything from stress responses to interpersonal sensitivity and contributing to the development of certain personality disorders. These are not character flaws. They are adaptations formed in environments where connection was inconsistent, unpredictable, frightening, or absent.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we see daily how early relational trauma shapes adult suffering, and how compassionate, somatic, attachment focused therapy offers a path toward integration and emotional stability.

Understanding Attachment Wounds: The Foundation of Personality

Attachment is not simply a psychological concept. It is a physiological process, grounded in the nervous system and relational experience. During infancy and childhood, our brains rely on caregivers to regulate stress, interpret the world, and shape our sense of self.

When caregivers are consistent, attuned, and emotionally available, children develop secure attachment, fostering resilience, emotional regulation, and a healthy sense of identity.

But when caregivers are:

     — Unpredictable
     — Emotionally volatile
     — Dismissive or critical

     — Chronically misattuned
     — Frightening, chaotic, or neglectful
    — Emotionally absent even when physically present

The developing child experiences profound nervous system dysregulation. Over time, these experiences become associated with identity formation, emotional expectations in relationships, and patterns of survival based on protection rather than connection.

These early adaptations can influence the emergence of personality disorders, particularly those characterized by emotional reactivity, relational instability, abandonment fears, dissociation, or rigid self-protection.

The Neuroscience: How Early Wounds Reshape the Brain

Attachment relationships shape early brain development, especially:

     — The amygdala
    — The hippocampus
    — The prefrontal cortex
    — The vagus nerve and the autonomic nervous system

When a child is consistently stressed by chaotic relationships or emotional absence, the brain shifts into a survival-based pattern.

Common neurobiological impacts include:

1. Overactivation of the Amygdala

This leads to hypervigilance, fear-based responses, emotional reactivity, and difficulty trusting others.

2. Underdevelopment of Prefrontal Integration

This impairs emotional regulation, impulse control, self-reflection, and the ability to tolerate distress.

3. Disrupted hippocampal Development

This affects memory integration, narrative coherence, and the ability to make sense of past experiences.

4. A Dysregulated Vagus Nerve

This results in chronic sympathetic arousal or shutdown patterns often seen in trauma and personality disorders.

Over time, these patterns can solidify into characteristic traits that resemble borderline personality disorder, narcissistic adaptations, avoidant personality structures, and other relationally rooted patterns.

These are not personality flaws. They are neurobiological adaptations to emotional environments that did not support safety, attunement, or healthy development.

How Early Attachment Wounds Show Up in Adult Relationships

Clients often describe patterns like:

     — Intense fear of abandonment
    — Difficulty trusting or depending on others
    — Emotional flooding or shutdown during conflict

     — Engaging in people pleasing or perfectionism
    — Pushing others away when they get too close
     — Becoming clingy, controlling, or hypervigilant
    — Attracting emotionally unavailable partners
    — Alternating between idealizing and devaluing loved ones
    — Feeling chronically misunderstood or unseen
    — Struggling to manage anger, shame, or emptiness

These are not signs of weakness. They are signs of early attachment adaptations still operating in an adult nervous system.

Attachment wounds create internal working models such as:

     — “I am too much.”
    — “I am not enough.”
    — “People leave.”
    — “Love is unpredictable.”
    — “I must perform to be accepted.”
     — “Closeness is dangerous.”
    — “If I rely on others, I will be disappointed.”

These beliefs influence emotional responses, relational patterns, and how a person navigates intimacy, conflict, and vulnerability.

The Link to Personality Disorders

Many personality disorders are deeply rooted in early relational trauma.
This includes:

     — Borderline Personality Disorder
    — Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    — Avoidant Personality Disorder
    — Dependent Personality Disorder
    — Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder
    — Paranoid Personality Disorder

While each presents differently, they share a common thread:
a developing self that struggled to form securely in the absence of consistent, attuned caregiving.

For example:

Borderline Adaptations

Emerge from inconsistent caregiving, unpredictability, or emotional volatility. The nervous system becomes primed for threat, leading to abandonment fears and difficulty regulating emotions.

Narcissistic Adaptations

Often emerge when a child’s emotional needs are ignored, minimized, or shamed. The child develops protective self-enhancement to survive emotional neglect.

Avoidant Adaptations

Come from dismissive or emotionally unavailable caregivers, teaching the child that vulnerability is unsafe and emotions must be suppressed.

Dependent Patterns

Develop when caregivers are intrusive, overcontrolling, or fail to support autonomy. The child learns they cannot trust themselves.

These are relational injuries, not inherent character flaws.

Hope Through Healing: How Somatic and Attachment Focused Therapy Helps

The good news is that the brain is capable of profound change through neuroplasticity.

Therapy that focuses on nervous system regulation, compassionate attunement, and trauma integration helps repair early attachment injuries.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, our approach blends:

     — Somatic therapy
    — EMDR
     — Attachment-focused EMDR
    — Polyvagal-informed interventions
     — IFS parts work
    — Trauma-informed psychotherapy
    — Interpersonal neurobiology
     — Relational repair
     — Nervous system stabilization
     — Boundary work
    — Emotional regulation skills

Clients learn to:

     — Track internal sensations rather than fear them
    — Regulate intense emotions without shutting down
    — Build secure internal attachment templates
    — Explore their parts with compassion
    — Form healthier, more stable relationships
    — Expand their capacity for intimacy
    — Reduce shame and self-blame
    — Heal the nervous system patterns created long ago

Therapy does not erase early wounds, but it transforms their impact and creates new patterns of relating, connecting, and experiencing the world.

A Path Forward

If early attachment wounds continue to shape your relationships, reactions, or sense of self, there is a path toward transformation rooted in compassion, neuroscience, and safety.

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in treating attachment trauma, personality disorder adaptations, and nervous system dysregulation with a deeply attuned, body-based, relational approach.

Your early environment shaped your beginnings, but it does not define your future.

Reach out to schedule a complimentary 20-minute consultation with our team of therapists, trauma specialists, somatic practitioners, or relationship experts, and start working towards integrative, embodied healing and attuned connection today. 

📞 Call us at (310) 651-8458

📱 Text us at (310) 210-7934

📩 Email us at admin@embodiedwellnessandrecovery.com

🔗 Visit us at www.embodiedwellnessandrecovery.com

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References (APA)

Siegel, D. J. (2012). The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we are. Guilford Press.

Schore, A. N. (2003). Affect dysregulation and disorders of the self. W. W. Norton.

Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.